Cyberbullying 101
Cyberbullying is a concept that most parents I speak with aren't familiar with. However, my cousin, who is a middle school guidance counselor, is very familiar with it. She says it's running rampant in the local schools.
Is it because parents aren't aware of what their teens and tweens are doing online? Maybe it's not getting talked about at the dinner table, but the NY Times has an article about it to get you up to speed.
"Bullying today is less about children hitting each other than it is about children being victimized by a culture of meanness," said Alane Fagin, executive director of the organization. "Children understand what many adults seem to have forgotten: You don't have to get hit to get hurt."
And the Internet is making matters a great deal worse, parents and experts say, because it provides a cloak of anonymity and removes physical size and bravery from the equation. Children as young as 7 or 8, who would never have dared to belittle or confront a classmate face to face, are empowered to be vulgar and vengeful at the keyboard.


2 Comments:
At 11:47 AM, Lady Wyntir said…
Seems to me the only thing that has changed is the medium...
In my middle school years, i learned the true meaning of a bully. I was never physically harmed, but the rants and insults came my way during every day.
A little too smart for the others, quiet, and a new classmate, i was the perfect target. At that age, anonymity didn't matter.
It's a shame that those being tormented online can't see it as just a computer screen, or just text. I guess that's the difference when it comes to the victims.
~wyn
At 10:17 AM, Mark Sicignano said…
But it's not the computer screen or just text that is the hurtful part. It's the intent of the words that can be painful.
Even back before the Internet, we had "sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me."
Still that's little solace for a child who continually is harrased. Back in my day, when I got off the bus at the end of the day, there was relief and I wouldn't have to deal with the bully until the next day.
Also if that bully wouldn't relent, I always had the option to pop him in the mouth when it was being done face-to-face.
When you're beeing harrassed online and anonymously, it's difficult to put an end to it, and it's easy for the offending person to be extraordinarily cruel. It also equalizes everybody so that it's not just the strongest or biggest one in the classroom that's the bully. Even the littlest or meek ones can launch blistering attacks on another via instant messaging or blog. Online bullying might be more widespread then.
So has the change of the medium made it a bigger problem and more hurtful? I think it probably has.
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