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Attempting to buy children’s affection with TVs and computer games… not a good idea.

Mary Bousted, general secretary of the Association of Teachers and Lecturers, said increasing numbers of children failed to respect authority or consider the needs of other pupils after leading “isolated lives” at home.

“Often it’s the well-off middle classes that buy off their children through the computer and the TV,” she said. “That then isolates them within the home, and then they’re surprised when their child isn’t coming to school ready to learn.”

Last year, Dr Bousted raised concerns that families were leading separate lives under one roof instead of sitting down to dinner together, with youngsters spending hours watching TV alone in their rooms.

The Whole Story.

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Who do you think has anxiety the most from kids having to unplug from their devices when they go to summer camp for two weeks? The kids? Or Mom or Dad?

In some cases, both.

Having gone through an Internet connectivity outage that went on for over twenty four hours, I can understand what it is like to feel unable to communicate via email, keep up with the outside world, and get work done. I work from home. So my Internet connection is important to me. I experienced significant frustration, a feeling of helplessness, perhaps some anxiety. But within a few hours, I realized that I would survive and that my connectivity would be restored at some point, and then I was able to move on to enjoy my forced vacation from being online.

Sounds like the kids who experienced the forced disconnection from tech at summer camp go through the same thing. But they do survive and quickly find out that their time can be filled with enjoyable things to do with other people. And many find that they even don’t miss their connectivity.

But the helicopter parents mentioned in the article appear to be the most anxious ones. Gasp! They can’t be in constant contact with their kids! And what is their reaction? Fear! The idea that their kids can’t pick up after a couple of rings to reassure them that they are safe makes Mom really uneasy… Does Mom resolve to let go and just get a grip? No. Instead she reassures herself that she can bug the camp counselors frequently to check in on her kid.

And what do the camp counselors have to do to fend off the barrage of worrisome parents constantly calling? They have to reassure parents that their kids are still alive by posting photos of them on an online gallery. Oh brother.

When I was a kid, my parents dropped me off for two weeks at camp, and then hopped on a ship to the Bahamas for at least a week if not longer. There was no way that either of us could get in touch with each other even if there was some kind of emergency. Maybe some kind of telegram could have been sent to let them know that I was eaten by a bear. But I have a feeling that my parents would have rather waited to hear about that when they got home. Why spoil a fun vacation in the Caribbean with news of my unfortunate death?

[photo by Symic]

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XM Radio’s New Bush Derangement Channel?

by Mark on January 18, 2009

I bought an XM Satellite radio a number of years ago so that I can ignore the horrible choices on FM radio in my area. I wanted a source of good, commercial free music and to be rid of morning DJs with their silly adolescent humor, talk about Britney’s latest rehab story, etc. I have a couple of kids too, so even more reason to want to kick that crap out of our lives.

XM gave me a good way out. The Loft – XM 50 was one of my favorite channels. Lots of great music, 24 hours a day. DJs that might tell you little stories about the music, the artists, and the names of the songs.

XM recently merged with Sirius and the DJ lineup merged as well.

Now, on The Loft, I have to listen to Dave Marsh, who can’t just play music. He has to interject a few minutes of his political opinions between every couple of songs. This Sunday morning at 10am, His program starts off with a snippet of a live performer shouting, “Let’s kick out the f***ing jams!”.

Then he gives us a mashup of Bush quotes put to a backdrop of Steam’s Na Na Hey Hey Kiss Him Goodbye.

But it gets worse. His first comments are about the “genocidal war in Gaza”. He apparently hasn’t heard about the genocidal war against Israel, as declared by Hamas, Iran, Hezbollah, etc. And he hasn’t read about the human shields being employed by Hamas and Hezbollah to maximize deaths of innocents and anti-Israel propaganda.

He also calls it a “surrogate war”. Apparently Israel doesn’t have enough reason to defend itself? Blame Bush for this too?

Other comments from Dave Marsh:

“We’re here today not to praise Bush, but to bury him.”

“What could be stupider than what we just went through for the last eight years?”

“…pathetic maniac that has been allowed to run this country.”

Dave Marsh thinks he’s clever, and he might think he’s right, but he seems woefully under-informed and afflicted by Bush Derangement Syndrome.

So I’ll have to start tuning in to The Loft at times when this turkey is not on. I’m also avoiding Vin Scelsa’s show on the same channel for the same reasons. I get tired of shouting at the radio, “Shut up and just play the music, jerk!”

Dear XM, please move Dave Marsh’s and Vin Scelsa’s political commentary to “America Left – XM 167″. If you think his political opinion is valuable, then put it on the political talk channels. Otherwise, he needs to just shut up and play the music.

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Five Tips for Avoiding Heartbreaking Loss

by mark on December 26, 2008

This year I had to break bad news to a few relatives who asked me for help recovering their lost music, photos, videos, and other data.

I have little sympathy for those who didn’t even make backups. But I do feel sorry for those people who back up their information to media that turns out to be unreadable a few years down the road.

If you want to hang onto your important memories, consider the advice below.

Old deteriorating photoMost people are not even aware that recordable CDs and DVDs become unreliable over time. Pre-recorded CDs and DVDs are manufactured by “stamping” the data into the plastic, which is then coated with a thin, reflective, metal film. But recordable discs have a dye layer which sits over a reflective metal film surface, and when a disk is “burned”, the write laser chemically alters the dye. The read laser can then read in the ones and zeros in the data based on whether the dye was altered by the write laser.  The problem the dye that is not burned by the write laser will also become transparent over time when exposed to light and perhaps other elements.

That stack of fifty CD-R’s that you bought for $15 at Staples is fine for sharing files, and storing for the short term (a few years). But you’re probably setting yourself up for heartbreak if you think your backups of your precious photos, music, and video onto those cheap discs are going to be there the next time you want to enjoy listening or watching them.

Use Archival Quality Recordable Media

My bootleg-addicted brother is building a collection of great music that he’s gathered around the Internet, but he was dismayed to learn that in less than five years, he may have nothing more than a large collection of coasters. He recently switched to using archival media, and he’s feeling a lot more comfortable now.

David Pogue advises that you should use the “gold” discs which will not degrade like the run-of-the-mill recordable discs.

But as I understand it, it isn’t the gold reflective surface that you need to concern yourself with. It’s the photo-sensitive dye that is used that matters most. Cyanine dye tends to be the least stable, and more prone to fading relatively quickly.  If the discs are left exposed to sunlight, your data will be unrecoverable in a short amount of time. Some manufacturers now add stabilizers to the dye to extend it’s lifetime, but it’s still not the best choice.

Phthalocyanine dye is stable, and this is what is typically used in the “archival quality” discs. Some manufacturers claim they’ll last 300. I doubt it, but mostly what I really care about is whether or not they’ll last fifty years. Because I suspect my kids will want to transfer them to whatever improved storage options, like Google’s Intergalactic Storage Cloud. Wikipedia has some good info on the different types of discs.

Use a Good Burner

If you’re burner (writer) is not reliable, then it doesn’t even matter what kind of media you’re using. Make sure that you get a high quality burner.

If anybody knows of any good test results on current drives to help readers make a choice, put a link into the comments.

Just be sure that you buy a respected brand, try to find devices that have positive user reviews, and don’t buy cheap (or it will cost you in the long run).

Store in a Dark, Cool, Dry Place

UV rays and other strong light will cause the dye to fade quickly. So store the CDs and DVDs in a dark place. Don’t use clear jewel boxes. Store them in a binder. Heat and moisture will degrade the discs as well.

Back Up Your Backups

If your media is really important to you, make two copies of everything, and store one of them in a different location so that if there is a fire and all is lost in one location, you have it in another.

Additionally, consider using an off-site, Internet-based backup solution. Just be sure you don’t leave all of your eggs in one basket.

If you have backup copies using the inexpensive media mentioned earlier, consider making copies of those discs onto more expensive archival media ASAP.

I am a huge fan of SyncBackSE for backing up to external drives, Internet backups (using FTP) and more.

Keep Your Media Library as Small as You Can

In these digital media days, it’s easy to shoot a few hundred pictures at your kids’ events and on a vacation. Shooting a lot is a good strategy for getting better pictures too, since it increases the likelihood of capturing something great. I recall advice from a photographer who said that you must be “ruthless” in culling images that are anything less than perfect. If you have an emotional attachment to your subjects, you may want to save every half-decent photo of them. But a huge pile of images and video clips will become quite unmanageable, and if you don’t have a snowballs chance in hell of being able to back them up, then you won’t. No backup means that you’ll eventually lose it all. So be ruthless and save only the best images and clips, so that you can easily back them up.

New Years Resolutions

  • Buy some archival recordable DVDs
  • Delete 90-95% of my images
  • Burn a fresh backup of what remains
  • Double-check my SyncBack profiles to make sure I’m getting everything backed up that should be backed up

See also: A previous post on backing up your memories.

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Here in the northeastern US, it’s getting cold and holiday cheer is making its appearance. After enjoying a delicious Thanksgiving meal with family, the next big event was a weekend traveling to Vermont with a few other families for a weekend of fun, relaxation, and cutting down our Christmas tree.

Breaking away from the computer and TV was a factor in what made the weekend so special. It started with a three-hour drive. The kids were excited in anticipation of seeing everybody, playing games, going places. Finding a radio station that was playing Christmas music enhanced the mood. The drive was a great time to talk about things and tell stories. Hitting the Vermont border, the first snow of the season appeared and the kids cheered.

Admittedly, there was some iPod and Nintendo DS usage in the back seat, because nobody can talk for three hours straight. Pointing out scenic or unusual sites, like the “Moose Crossing” sign, the covered bridge or the river that is starting to freeze over got them to pause their toys and got a little more conversation going.

At the house, hanging out with relatives and friends, away from cell phone signals, video games and the Internet, everybody gives attention to everybody else for a change. The fire crackles. Older generations tell stories to the younger generations. The kids crack up the parents and grandparents with their funny insights on things.

The next day, the hunt for the tree begins. The field is full of adequate trees, but the perfect one is out there. The evergreens and fresh cut pine smells terrific, and sometimes the smoke from a not-to-distant chimney. Shuffling into position to cut the tree down, a variety little “stickers” grab onto fleece jackets and gloves. While the tree is being bailed, hot chocolate warms everybody’s hands, noses, lips and bellies. Who doesn’t appreciate hot chocolate more after an hour in the cold, winter sun. All of this adds up to a great weekend of family and fun.

Families that have an artificial tree miss out on most of that fun. Getting the tree becomes a half-hour event with a trip to the basement or attic. The kids get to open a box of tree parts. Sure, it’s better than no tree, and it’s still an occasion to set it up. But it doesn’t tingle the senses with all of those outdoor experiences.

Artificial trees may be convenient, but they eliminate the sights, sounds, smells, and tastes that go along with the adventure of getting a real tree.

Real trees are to artificial trees

…the way that meeting friends in the outdoors is to IM’ing them.

…the way that sledding and snowball fights are to World of Warcraft online.

…the way that chestnuts roasting on an open fire are to watching YouTube videos of chestnuts roasting on an open fire.

Make sure that however you enjoy your holidays that it is safe, fun, and make some great memories!

Update: I created a Christmas tree related poll.

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